Why does cleaning cause arguments?

1. You’re not used to sharing your home with someone else
 When you start a relationship you’re not living with someone straight away and for people used to living alone and exactly as they please, it can be a very big adjustment to share your space with someone else. This sharing of a home can highlight some of your own and the other person’s more annoying habits or specific tastes and ways of doing things. Not everyone can accept this difference and may want their partner to become more like them. Sometimes a partner is happy to adapt and might just need a bit of training, but other times they might not want to go along with it.

2. Cleanliness is extremely important to you and not for the other person
For some people a clean home is absolutely essential for their mental well-being and is a very high priority. I can understand this as your home is often a reflection of your inner state of mind. A super clean house might suggest that you have a strong need for order to feel at ease, a bit of mess or an average amount of dirt suggests you are fairly laid back, but able to ignore a little chaos and a lot of mess suggests you have other priorities that have taken over or are possibly overwhelmed and stressed out. If you find yourself as a couple prioritising a clean home differently then it might cause trouble. For the person who likes things very clean it really can cause real stress and agitation to have their home under par. It can be difficult for the other partner to take this seriously if it’s not something that bothers them. For the person who is less bothered by cleanliness they may feel annoyed at being made to work harder on the home or being nagged all the time.

3. Partners have different ideas of each other’s role within the home.
There is of course the other, more old fashioned issue with cleaning where you may be with a traditional type of man who doesn’t think it’s his job to do the cleaning. It is possible for this to go the other way too with a woman feeling she shouldn’t do the cleaning, but more often it is the other way around. This may be getting better as men realize they have to play an equal part now women are working as well, but all too often we see that young men have been mollycoddled by their mothers and though they know logically that things should be equal they may not actually be able to bring themselves to notice the need for cleaning or even do it. This is perhaps the most troublesome aspect of inequality of household chores in a couple. For the very traditional man who thinks cleaning is a woman’s job, that is plainly infuriating and probably says a lot about how he treats and views women in general. Not many women these days would be happy to be with someone like this! For the young lad who has just never had to do it or never learned, there is more hope, but it may still take quite a lot of effort on the woman’s part to help him learn, recognise what needs doing and when and to take responsibility so she’s not just instructing him to do things, but instead just gets on with it himself. Again, just to re-iterate, this can go both ways!

All of these things are exacerbated by the long hours we work. When we’re tired, the last thing we want to do is clean the house… which, as we all know is work in itself! So we try to get out of it or get slack and one or both partners gets annoyed. Over the years, this can build up a sense of resentment that may become unmanageable.


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